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When I’m over at my parents house we inevitably end up watching that one detective-ish show on the Hallmark channel that stars the chick who used to be the eponymous Christy, because my mom loves it.
This inevitably leads me to seeing commercials for all their other original series, as well, and makes me feel torn, because on one hand, look at all these stories about women! And on the other, it’s Hallmark, which is about one step up from Lifetime. (Not that Lifetime can’t have guilty pleasures or even the occasional really good made-for-TV movie … but still).
I will say this though
Elementary’s portrayal of PoC is FANTASTIC (as compared to other popular TV shows, at least)
but I highly doubt it would pass the Bechdel test
(at least insofar as I’ve seen)
(this is my way of saying I think Gregson could have been a woman)
It does! Not sure what episode you’re on (or if it does it in every episode … would have to re-watch), but it has several times.
It’s funny- I was talking to my dad this morning about TV shows, and after he gushed to me about what crazy things are happening on Fringe, I volunteered that in spite of myself, I was finally getting into Lost Girl (yah, it’s growing on me). He said he’d seen a few episodes and didn’t much care for it, and was urging me to watch Grimm instead, and after a few head shakes and “Meh’s”, I suddenly blurted out that I liked Lost Girl because it had a female lead (well really, two, actually).
And it kind of shocked me, because I’d never thought I chose it/kept watching for that reason; even though I definitely think critically about female characters and their treatments, I hadn’t applied that intellectual sort of analysis to this series (seriously, up until just the past few episodes, it’s been more of a “I’m bored, let me throw on an episode” thing). But clearly the appreciation’s been sort of lurking under the surface of my viewership.
Kind of funny how my dad really didn’t have anything much to say to that, either- he sort of half-heartedly tried to mention other female characters in his show and I was like “Not the same.”
I don’t think some feminists realise sexism can be towards men too… For example, I read a post on a feminist blog where they tried to argue that pregnancy is one sided and men shouldn’t get a say when it comes to abortion. Excuse me, but if the male and female are a COUPLE they are in it together,…
lol the day that technology allows for males to carry fetuses for the 9 painful, potentially fatal, months, then men are entitled to a say about whether or not to terminate the pregnancy.
however, seeing as how all males are just sperm donors these days, and females have to actually incubate for almost a year, it follows that females should get a special entitlement about whether or not they want to host a fetus inside of their bodies.
Feminism isn’t about equality amongst the genders, because that doesn’t get rid of patriarchy, that just makes it so that woman can be successful if we play the patriarchal game right. It’s about women’s liberation.
You can’t take away a man’s right to have a child. Just because a woman has to carry the baby for 9 months doesn’t mean the man isn’t allowed to have it for the rest of his life. If the woman doesn’t want it, then once it’s born hand it over and pay child support. And if the woman really didn’t want to have a baby in the first place, they should have made sure they were protected properly.
Treating men as inferior will get NOTHING done. It will only perpetuate sexism. If it’s so wrong for men to be on top, what makes it right for women to be? Your gender shouldn’t define your power, your life choices should.
If a man works hard to become a powerful influence in society, good for him, he earned it. If a woman does the same, good for her, she earned it.
“And if the woman really didn’t want to have a baby in the first place, they should have made sure they were protected properly.” You do realize that there is no 100% guaranteed way for a sexually active, fertile woman to prevent pregnancy, right? If a woman’s contraception fails, she automatically loses her bodily autonomy? Is that how it works?
“You can’t take away a man’s right to have a child.” Saying a man has a right to have a child implies that a man has the right to compel a woman to bear a child for him … and that’s not a right that women have. A woman has no right to compel a man to impregnate her; so why should a man have the right to compel a woman to gestate an embryo for him? How is that equal?
And I’m always intensely curious as to how someone plans to implement this. You would first have to prove paternity, either through amniocentesis or CVS (chorionic villus sampling)- both which require waiting a fair amount of time- between 10 and 13 weeks from your LMP (last menstrual period) for CVS, and as early as 11 weeks for amniocentesis, but usually between 14 and 20 weeks. Let’s not forget that the majority of abortions (78.9%) take place prior to ten weeks’ gestation, that you can only obtain a medication abortion 9 weeks from your LMP, that the risk and the cost of abortion rises when it goes from the first trimester to the second, that both amniocentesis and CVS increase the risk of miscarriage, and that the cost of either ranges between $1,200 and $1,800.
If a woman suffers a miscarriage that could have been attributed to the unnecessary procedure, who covers its cost? Who covers the cost if the man alleging paternity is wrong and he’s not the father? Is he then obligated to pay the difference between the cost she would have paid had she been able to get an early abortion and the cost she now has to pay to get a later one (in addition to some degree of insurance for the increased risk)?
Not to mention the huge, glaring omission of the fact that patients in this country have medical privacy- namely, no private citizen is entitled to know what’s going on in your uterus. Nope, not even the dude who splooged in your vag. I really want to know how anybody who argues for a father’s right to deny abortion to a woman plans to avoid the privacy issue. Do men have the right to demand pregnancy testing of any woman they claim to have slept with?
I’m not joking or making light, either- how would you answer these questions, mummymycroft?
I don’t think some feminists realize sexism can be towards men too… For example, I read a post on a feminist blog where they tried to argue that pregnancy is one sided and men shouldn’t get a say when it comes to abortion. Excuse me, but if the male and female are a COUPLE they are in it together, it’s the man’s child just as much as it is the woman’s. Yes, women go through more when carrying the child, and any decent man would try his best to make it easy for his partner, but that doesn’t entitle the woman to anything special. Feminism isn’t the fight for women to be superior, it’s the fight for EQUALITY among genders. If you want men to treat women as equals, do the same to them.
Men and women have the exact same rights when it comes to reproduction, though- men are allowed to do with their bodies as they see fit, women are allowed to do with their bodies as they see fit. If you’re upset that a woman is more involved in reproduction than men are (his sperm contribution versus her nine months of gestation), that’s fine- but you’re going to have to be pissed off at nature/God/whatever for making it that way, not for the laws we create to ensure that men and women both have an equal right to bodily autonomy.
Furthermore, people complaining about this supposed inequity usually strikes me as reminiscent of those people who scream about false rape charges- another unfairness to men that, when examined, we find is actually fairly rare. Research seems to indicate that most women do talk with their partners about their pregnancies:
“The evidence is rather clear that a very large majority of women inform their husbands and partners about their pregnancies and abortions (McCain 1985). In one study of 2,337 women who obtained abortions at a clinic in Illinois (Plutzer and Ryan 1985), 93% of married women told their husbands about the pregnancy and 89% of never-married women told their partners.” (from “The Abortion Question” by Hyman Rodman, extract via Google Books here)
Also, for what it’s worth, feminists most definitely realize that sexism and the patriarchy hurts men.
1) I hate the feeling of stubble. If my legs felt silky soft smooth for a week- rather than feeling that way for all of an hour (if that)- maybe I’d shave sometimes (heck, everybody likes a change of pace now and then, eh?). But they don’t. And nothing has changed that- not hot water, fresh razors, special razors, shaving cream, shaving gel, conditioner, etc..
2) I like the way it feels like it helps my feminist cred (not to say that you have to have hairy legs to be feminist, or shaving means you aren’t feminist- just that I like embracing the dreaded stereotype with pride). There’s something wonderful about not running from stupid “insults” (“We’re not like that! I wear makeup and a pushup bra and I’m not like them who I agree are so terrible!”).
3) I like showing people what lady leg hair looks like. Obviously, all women are different in terms of how it grows, how much, how dark, etc… . but I think the vast majority of people have no clue what grown-out female leg hair often looks like.
4) There is nothing like feeling a soft breeze rustle through your leg hair. Seriously. Guys have to take this for granted, I think, because it’s such a lovely tactile sensation for me.
5) I’m furry all over. I’ve always had hairy arms- very light hair, but a whole lot of it (and I’ve long loved it … I still remember the horror of learning my cousin shaved her arms). I don’t know, some part of me feels weird that I’d embrace my arm hair but not my leg hair. It’s not that you can’t remove some hair while leaving other hairy areas (heck, I already do that), but just that it feels natural and right for me when my limbs match.
6) I think it’s really pretty when the sun hits it a certain way. Kind of back-lit? Take the beauty of your body where you can find it, and I find my legs far more visually interesting and aesthetically pleasing when they’re furry than when they’re not.
7) I love how my leg hair is in the water. Literally can stare at the way it moves like pretty cilia underwater. Love how gorgeously soft it is after a hot shower.
8) I don’t have to spend money on razors or shaving cream. Less environmental impact with plastic disposable razors, too, if you’re into that sort of thing.
9) I don’t have to waste time shaving my legs. Side benefit: never running out of hot water, since my shower time is pretty well-organized around the washing and grooming I already do.
10) Never having to go “Oh dang it, I missed a spot!” or “How did I accidentally not shave this whole stripe of my leg?”.
11) I take joy in reppin’ for the fact that body hair is natural and not inherently feminine or masculine, and that there’s no good reason to demand women remove their hair, but not men.
12) No cuts from shaving!
13) It’s fun to shock people and rub it in their faces (not literally. Although … ). Bonus points: it makes my mom uncomfortable, which makes me happy.
14) It makes me feel more grounded and connected in my body. I just touch it and feel like it’s mine, a part of me. I’m sure lots of people see their body hair as something *on* them; I see it as an extension of myself.
15) The longer I go without shaving, the more pride I take in it (even though it takes no real effort on my part). Over 2 years, baby!
16) Fun to touch and play with.
17) Helps me judge people’s characters. (Hint: the more horror and need to comment on it, the harder I’m judging you. Or, as Alix Olson sings: It’s a weapon; use discretion).
18) Feels like taking a stand against the beauty standards that are imposed on us. And yes, I go along with some other imposed beauty standards- some because I’m too weak to fight ‘em, others because I like them and they don’t feel like an imposition at all. Point is, being told to shave feels like an oppressive beauty standard for me, and you pick your battles- you don’t have to fight them all.
19) It helps me feel more queer or visually queer (again, not sayin’ you have to have hairy legs to be queer- just that it helps me in my identification when I do).
20) I don’t think about it. Really, it very rarely crosses my mind, unless something happens to bring it up or I randomly get fascinated by it in the sunlight or underwater or rustling in the breeze. And yeah, that’s its own form of privilege- my hair’s light enough to not constantly draw attention, and I can take joy from weirding people out with it, rather than seeing it as hurtful criticism. If it was commented on all the time, or often treated with disgust, then it’d surely cross my mind more and maybe cause me more anguish and a desire to shave. But as it is now, it’s just a non-issue for me, so why the hell would I get rid of it?